This world is changing so fast that it’s tough to know what you and your kids need to have a good relationship, and also allow them the space the need to grow as individuals. We can’t keep our eyes on them all of the time and regardless of whether or not we’ve grown eyes in the back of our heads, sometimes they’re beyond the horizon of our sight. Those are the times when we worry about them, but that’s all part of letting go and letting them make their own decisions, they’re going to need to learn someday. Part of being a good parent is letting them go and in the process, letting them make bad decisions and hurt themselves. Then, after that happens then you’ve got to either impose consequences upon them yourself, or you have to let whatever authority or establishment they perpetrated these crimes against lay down the hammer to a certain degree.
In a land where everyone seems to have money and a legal system where money and social status buys friends, this is a situation where your child can learn one thing or another. If you’ve got money and you bail them out, then they’re going to learn that consequences aren’t real for the privileged. Whether you have money or not however, if you hold your hands up in the air and tell your kid that your hands are tied, then let them suffer whatever consequences are handed down, they may learn that rules do apply to them and when and if they break them, they’ll be subject to punishment. These things happen, all of our kids are good kids, they can just do stupid things sometimes and when they do, then we need to know about it so we can handle them accordingly. Letting go is all part of that process and sometimes, you’ve got to tighten the leash a bit when they get themselves into trouble. This might be a good time to send them off to summer camp, because if they’re going to make their own decisions and they think they’re grownups, it might be time to throw them to the wolves for the summer to see how grownup they actually are.
I’m not sure if your kid is prone to getting homesick, but if that’s the case then maybe an overnight camp isn’t the best idea for them. Or, maybe you do want to punish them, but in the best way possible by surrounding them by nature for a couple of weeks with a bunch of other kids. They’ll most likely have a great time, and also come back with a greater appreciation for you as a parent from being away from you for so long, and paying for them to have such a great experience.
Summer camps for teens are an awesome way to let them go, and get them out of their comfort zone so they question themselves and who they are to an extent, but under the watchful eyes of camp counselors. The counselors at most of these camps know a lot about kids and different approaches that can be taken in order to get the best out of them, but it’s more about the interaction that they have with the other kids than anything.
The more they’re able to learn how to express themselves and communicate effectively with other people their own age, the better they’ll be able to do that in other social settings when they come home and the less likely they’ll be to misbehave. Sometimes when faced with a tough choice, they go along with the pack because they can’t confidently articulate their feelings and thoughts regarding a matter. Increasing the amount of experiences that they have with as many kids as possible, can increase their ability to pick up on strengths that other kids have that they don’t.
Who knows, maybe they’ll meet a kid that they look up to who happens to have a great vocabulary and is able to express themselves verbally in a way that your kid wants to emulate. That would be a good thing right? Well, that’s just an example but all kinds of awesome things are possible at overnight summer camps, they’re great for a lot of different reasons and have enough supervision that your kid will be cared for, but they’ll also have the freedom they need to find out the things that they need to know about themselves and each other. Well, no matter what you’re going through with your kid, it may be time to let go in the form of sending them to summer camp.